Choosing your wedding party can be challenging and it is often difficult to know where to start. Obviously not all of your friends can be bridesmaids (or groomsmen), otherwise you wouldn't have any guests to fill your seats. There can also be pressure from friends or family members to include specific people in your party. The most important thing to remember is that these are supposed to be YOUR special people for your day so you want to make sure you are choosing people you know are there to support you, not just because they want the title of bridesmaid.
First things first. Choose your honor attendant, your best man or maid/matron of honor. This can be your closest sibling, your best friend, your cousin, even a parent. Keep in mind that this person will, traditionally, have the most responsibility in planning, or at least heading up the planning, of your bachelor or bachelorette party and helping plan your bridal shower if you are having one. This is also going to be the go to person at the wedding for communication with the bride or groom. Think of them as the crisis filter for personal matters. You want this person to know you well enough to know if you actually want to talk to your aunt Karen about only having two entree options or if they can point her in another direction.
Finally, you want to pick the rest of your party. If you want your sides to be even, make sure you are communicating with your partner about how many people you are wanting to ask. Think about your relationships with your friends, your family, or your fiance's family. You want to make sure you are picking people that have supported you individually as well as in your relationship. Also, keep in mind that being a bridesmaid can be expensive. If you are asking your wedding party to pay for their own outfits, hair, makeup, etc. make sure you are having that discussion openly and honestly but make sure you are being realistic about how much you are wanting people to financially contribute.
Keep in mind that someone doesn't have to be part of the bridal party to attend your bridal shower or bachelorette/ bachelor party. People can be as included, or not, as YOU want them to be. This wedding is for you and your partner, don't forget that.
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